When Silence Isn’t About You
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Dear friends, This week, I caught myself slipping into an old pattern. A friend hadn’t responded, and the first thought that came up was familiar: they’re upset with me. For a long time, that’s how I interpreted silence. If someone went quiet, I assumed they didn’t want to be around me anymore. That belief sent me chasing reassurance — especially in romantic relationships — trying to close a gap that often wasn’t real. What stopped me this time was a quiet recognition: this feels familiar. Not true. Familiar. Here’s the reframe I’m practicing now: self-blame is a habit, not a truth. Most silence isn’t about us at all. People have full lives, distracted days, limited energy. Not every pause carries meaning. Jaycee reminds me of that without trying. When I’m quiet, she doesn’t fill the space with stories. She just sits close on the recliner, steady and present. So today, I’m inviting you to notice what you do when silence shows up. See if you can pause before chasing reassurance or assigning fault. Let the quiet stay neutral. And if you’ve been the quiet one lately, that’s okay too. For those who want a gentle place to practice this kind of pause, that’s what the Resilience Pack is for — one small page, a few grounding minutes, and a steady reminder to come back to yourself. Join Jane & Jaycee's Resilience Pack Reflections for Life After Hard Times. Jane The Jane & Jaycee Project — Sunday Letters |
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