She doesn't wait to be invited
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Hi friend, Jaycee doesn't calculate. She sees someone new and she goes. Jaycee does this everywhere she goes. The neighborhood. Home Depot. Strangers she's never met. Last week our neighborhood got some new neighbors. Before I could even think about what to say or when to introduce myself, Jaycee had already made her move. She ran over, rolled onto her side, and made those little squealing sounds she makes when she's so happy she can't contain it. And they melted. That's the only word for it. Whatever they were carrying in that moment — the stress of moving, the strangeness of a new place, not knowing anyone yet — it fell away. She chose them before they'd earned it. I've been thinking about that ever since. Because I know what it feels like to be on the receiving end of that kind of love. Two years ago I came back to Georgia. I'd been gone about six months. I was starting over in every sense of the word. A friend gave me a place to live. Just me and Jaycee. No strings. No timeline. No agenda. I remember walking in and feeling something I hadn't felt in a long time. Not relief exactly. Something quieter than that. I wasn't running from fear anymore. I was just home. She didn't wait for me to prove I deserved it. She just opened the door. I think a lot of us learned somewhere along the way to wait. To earn love before we let it in. To stand at the edge of someone's kindness and wonder if we qualify. Jaycee never got that memo. Neither did my friend. And I've been wondering lately how much we miss — how much we keep ourselves from — because we're still waiting to feel worthy of it. There's something that lives inside me now that I didn't have before that chapter. A kind of recognition. Of what I need. Of what I can receive. Of what steadiness actually feels like in the body. If any of that is stirring something in you, the Sunday Spark was made for exactly this. One page. A few quiet minutes. A question worth sitting with. https://janeandjaycee.com/products/sundayspark Steady counts. P.S. Jaycee has already introduced herself to every family on the block. She's way ahead of me. |
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