He thought I'd stop.


This week I did something that scared me.

I sat down at my desk and put together a set of legal interrogatories for an upcoming contempt case.

By myself.

No attorney. Just me, my documents, and AI walking alongside me every step of the way.

I stopped having legal representation a while back. The cost made that decision for me. And for a long time, I wasn't sure what that meant for my case. Whether I could really do this without someone in my corner who knew what they were doing.

I've been pursuing this for two years.

Two years of not letting something go that I believe someone expected me to let go. I think he counted on that. I think he believed that if he waited long enough, I'd get tired. Or scared. Or just stop.

I haven't stopped.

This week I sent those interrogatories to his attorney.

And then I waited.

That first day was hard. I kept checking. Kept wondering if I'd made a mistake somewhere. If something would come back rejected. If I'd get in trouble for doing it wrong.

That voice — will I get in trouble — is one I know well. A lot of us do.

But nothing came back wrong. And slowly, over that day, something shifted.

It wasn't loud. It wasn't a celebration. It was quieter than that.

It was the feeling of realizing that he has underestimated me. And that the corner is getting smaller.

I could not have done this without AI. I want to be honest about that. Not as a technology story. As a survival story. When I couldn't afford help, I found a way to get it differently. AI helped me understand what I was looking at, what I needed to say, and how to say it correctly. It stood in the gap.

During the days I was putting everything together, I was deep inside it. Focused in a way that pulled me somewhere else.

Jaycee felt it.

She didn't make a fuss about it. She just got a little quiet. A little distant. We weren't as connected and I noticed it even in the middle of everything.

The day the interrogatories went out, I came back to her.

And she just opened right up. Like no time had passed. No explanation needed. Just — there you are.

I think about that a lot. How she doesn't hold the distance against me. How she just receives me when I return.

I'm trying to learn that too.

The case continues. May 7 is coming. But this week I did something I wasn't sure I could do.

Steady counts.

Jane

And Jaycee, who always knows when I've come back to the room.


P.S. If something in this letter stirred something for you — a situation you're navigating, something you haven't been able to move through — the Sunday Spark was made for exactly that moment. It's a simple, quiet resource that gives you AI prompts to help you think through what's hard, without needing anyone else in the room. One page. Three minutes. One wag from Jaycee.

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